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PostSubject: Is love enough to make a relationship work?   Sat 19 Nov 2011, 9:27 am

i need to know what you say bout this..

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PostSubject: Re: Is love enough to make a relationship work?   Sat 19 Nov 2011, 1:17 pm

Yes and No.

And that may not be the answer you're looking for. Love is the greatest foundation of any relationship. But like all situations, the excitement dies, the 'honeymoon stage' isn't forever, and you can't put the weight of your relationship on love alone. "Mahal ko siya eh." But it's always up to the both of you if you want your relationship to work. Don't wait around for something to happen, life already did the "falling in love" part for you. Make the relationship happen.

Loving each other is different from entering and keeping a relationship with each other.

From an article I've read:
"Sustaining love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll never just happen to you. You can't "find" lasting love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy. True love can only happen after you've fallen out of love. When you begin choosing to love, even if you don't feel like doing it ---- that's true love."

"God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go." - Ruth Beltran

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PostSubject: Re: Is love enough to make a relationship work?   Sun 20 Nov 2011, 9:26 am

POINT: "Easy come, easy go."

Expecting a relationship to have a big harvest without putting much effort to it is absurd.

If you love that person, you'd nurture her - you'd tend to her - you'd be the best gardener you know you could be. If you learn to love your wild flower - the one who's always been there for you, why not start tending to her? Why take her for granted? Hindi sa lahat nang oras magpapakatanga ang isang tao para sa'yo. Swerte ka kung hindi siya umalis bago mo maisip mageffort, eh paano kung oo, paano kung huli na ang lahat. Wild flowers don't have hearts, so maybe they don't care about being taken for granted. Pero tao tayo. Hindi porket naipapakita niya sa'yong kaya niyang manatiling 'sa'yo' nang wala kang ginagawa, wala kang gagawin. Wag mong intayin mawala bago ka kumilos.

Sure, a relationship can last a long time with only love - but you can't expect it to last forever. Someday, somehow, one of you is bound to find something lacking. One of you might take the other for granted, and when it's too much, one starts to not care about the other and slowly, it just becomes two people who say they're together but there's not much of a relationship left. Tried this, and we lasted 4 years. Without effort, the relationship becomes boring, stale, and when you look back at your relationship and you might find yourself asking, "How did we get this far? Why aren't we moving forward? What did we do? What's to treasure?" It's not the kind of relationship that stands out in your life.

We all need to feel the love from our partner, not from our imagination, not only through words.

Sure, loving a person is one of the best things you could give to her, but isn't your love for her the perfect reason as to why you'd put effort into keeping her in your life. You love her. But do you want to be with her? These are two different things. And it's not about hoping she wouldn't go and keeping tabs on doing things to make her stay - no. Don't let it reach that point. Instead, be the best person you could be. Just because you know she deserves the best. Just because you know she's worth the effort to be the best. Just because. It's better to make her NOT want to leave - instead of her just being the one you refuse to let go. It's more of writing a love story, you're the main character and here's you leading woman - you know she's worth everything. You know she deserves the best love story you could write.

And think about it, just because it MIGHT work out without effort, doesn't mean you settle with that. If she's the one you want to spend forever with, make the effort you think she's worth - keep your relationship on a stable "it's sure to work out" level.


ANOTHER POINT: "What if she's not the one for me?"

Some things are wrong from the beginning, that doesn't mean we don't try to find out. If you say you've loved her at one point - then she was worth trying for. There are things we can change, so be brave and try. Also, things we cannot - this we have to accept. Move on, because you know one day you'd have to.

HARSH TRUTH, THOUGH: If she's not worth your time and efforts, you're not worth hers either.

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PostSubject: Re: Is love enough to make a relationship work?   Mon 21 Nov 2011, 12:29 pm

NO

Relationships are not always bonded by love, for once again what is love without the means of keeping the relationship or what is love without romance and intimacy?

Personally, a relationship must always have romance, reason and means.


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PostSubject: Re: Is love enough to make a relationship work?   Mon 21 Nov 2011, 3:23 pm

NO.......
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PostSubject: Re: Is love enough to make a relationship work?   Mon 21 Nov 2011, 5:59 pm

Yes. If you help each other to keep the relationship working.
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PostSubject: Re: Is love enough to make a relationship work?   Wed 23 Nov 2011, 9:04 am

yes if both of you wer in love w/ each other.
No if it's a one sided love only.

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PostSubject: Re: Is love enough to make a relationship work?   Thu 24 Nov 2011, 1:12 am

If you both love each other, everything will fall into place.

It's as simple as that, but of course, the magnitude or even the mere definition of love is relative to every person.


-hopeless and romantic.

Note: I'd like to expound some more, but I am currently late for work.

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PostSubject: Re: Is love enough to make a relationship work?   Thu 24 Nov 2011, 11:55 pm

Without love, a relationship wouldn't be able to function well. While it is possible to HAVE a relationship without love, it would be unhealthy; impersonal - and there's no assurance as to how long it would last, if it would last at all.

Love alone will not make a relationship grow, like how words without actions affect things. But love, in itself, should give you enough reason to want to be with this person; to choose to be with this person; to be better for this person; to grow with this person; to make this person happy; to want this person happy - before your own happiness.

It stops being a constant question of what you get in return, of how much pain you're getting, of how you deserve better - even when, maybe, you do.

You don't owe anyone your happiness. Pero for what it's worth - when you deeply love someone, she worth everything - smiles, pain, effort, time. And when she's not, then maybe you just don't love her enough.

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PostSubject: Re: Is love enough to make a relationship work?   Mon 28 Nov 2011, 6:17 am

no...love is not enough to make a relationship work..

base on my experience un ah..ahehehe
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PostSubject: Re: Is love enough to make a relationship work?   Fri 02 Dec 2011, 11:58 am

why did i even asked this.. i dont even know what love is.. sheeeze..

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PostSubject: Re: Is love enough to make a relationship work?   Thu 02 Feb 2012, 5:59 am

love is not enough.. may mga tao kasing mas pinipili yung nakagawian at tama.. dahil din sa mga taong mapanghusga sa paligid.. alam kong hindi siya masaya.. pero dahil sa mga taong makikitid ang utak na binrainwash sya... hiniwalayan nya akooo.. waaa.... kahit alam naming dalawang mahal na mahal namin ang isat isa.. sad.. ok4
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PostSubject: Re: Is love enough to make a relationship work?   Fri 18 May 2012, 6:45 am

in my opinion, siguro kailangan ng love, effort and trust to make a relationship work.

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PostSubject: Re: Is love enough to make a relationship work?   Tue 19 Jun 2012, 7:11 pm

Love is not enough....A good relationship requires a balance of love, respect and trust.

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PostSubject: Re: Is love enough to make a relationship work?   Thu 21 Jun 2012, 2:10 pm

Love is never enough, sensibility and responsibility must be part of the relationship... evil
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PostSubject: Re: Is love enough to make a relationship work?   Fri 22 Jun 2012, 1:18 am

From the movie Kate & Leopold:


"Otis always told me love is a leap. Lamentably, I was never inspired to jump." - Leopold

Remember: "A strong love has a strength enough for the journey, but a relationship of strength knows it is in the journey where love will become strong".
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PostSubject: Re: Is love enough to make a relationship work?   Fri 22 Jun 2012, 12:59 pm

DsCreet wrote:
Love is never enough, sensibility and responsibility must be part of the relationship... evil

What's with the evil tam tam?
Pretty sure ain't for me. Ngyahahaha.
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PostSubject: Re: Is love enough to make a relationship work?   Sun 24 Jun 2012, 1:08 pm

Love, passion and commitment....

Those are the three components to stay in a relationship, ideally...


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PostSubject: Re: Is love enough to make a relationship work?   Wed 27 Jun 2012, 4:01 am

No...but it can't work without love..

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PostSubject: Re: Is love enough to make a relationship work?   Fri 29 Jun 2012, 4:06 pm

apple wrote:


moem wrote:
Love, passion and commitment....

Those are the three components to stay in a relationship, ideally...


tambling!


gumaganun? and the thrill o sa passion na yun? lol. oist, tip ko lang, umahon ka naman paminsan-minsan. hahaaahaha! simula nong naadik ka sa thrill, ayaw mo na yatang makipagkaibigan. laughing

my answer...love+commitment+honesty+trust+sacrifices+etc...


Mother, sorry naman. My schedule changed na kaya am not able to chat as much as i want to...

And ung honesty+trust+sacrifices+etc , that boils down to commitment. angel
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PostSubject: Re: Is love enough to make a relationship work?   Sun 01 Jul 2012, 4:14 am

No. A relationship with just love and a lack of effort is a ticking time-bomb. You may stay together for a while because of that love but sooner or later it will be exhausting.
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PostSubject: Re: Is love enough to make a relationship work?   Mon 02 Jul 2012, 8:51 am

a lot of love and a lot of sex...

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