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PostSubject: Are you with the right partner?   Thu 11 Apr 2013, 1:26 am



During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?"

The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind replied the author.

Here's the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you
may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this):

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know
WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO! ♥

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PostSubject: Re: Are you with the right partner?   Thu 11 Apr 2013, 4:37 pm

....I agree

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PostSubject: Re: Are you with the right partner?   Thu 19 Sep 2013, 7:42 pm

Yup. I second that.

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PostSubject: Re: Are you with the right partner?   Fri 20 Sep 2013, 6:08 pm

This is very nice :) Good Jon Toink!

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PostSubject: Re: Are you with the right partner?   Mon 30 Sep 2013, 3:11 pm

Well put. Definitely agree bear roll

And there are things you can do, interventions if you will, like knowing how the laws of relationships goes which gets to be all complicated, here's one basic law that's very useful ~how you communicate and understand~ we can all be guided with The 5 languages of love dance baby!


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PostSubject: Why it never worked like you've expected?   Mon 30 Sep 2013, 5:55 pm

You might have wondered why some if not all relationships you've been on just don't end up the way you want it to. As to where you've pictured out the perfection of what reality could be with your partner, is that somewhere along the line something if not sooner than later, something goes terribly wrong moving to the point of doubt if you're ever indeed with the right person.

So there are a lot of theories or laws to relationships you find in magazines, compatibility tests and so on, but now let's take this one perspective as beautifully discussed in the 5 Languages of love. According to the book, there are 5 main love languages on how we express our love to our partners, whatever this language be, if our partner communicates their love in an entirely different love language than to what we understand and or vice versa, the problem starts. mad

Seldom do partners who break up have the same primary love language. We tend to speak our primary love language and become confused when our partner doesnt understand what were communicating. Once you identify and learn to speak your partner's primary love language, youll have discovered the key to a long-lasting, loving relationship.

Take the quiz with your partner and friends hug

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